The greatest gift you can give to yourself is to understand that everything that has happened in your lifetimes has been a gift. You have given yourself this thing. You are not a victim of the outside world. You have given yourself all these wonderful gifts, and when you can look at things this way it takes the negative spin off of them. If you can look at everything thatâs happened in your life... even bad parents, a bad relationship, a physical ailment... these are all gifts. And when you look at them as such, it takes the old charge off of what you would consider to be a negative event.